Thursday, 1 March 2012

Breast Reductions - A Topic Close to the Heart

I read a couple of amazing blog posts this week regarding breast reductions. Check out "The Pressure to Get a Reduction" and "Minimizing Big Breasts: Bras Vs. Breast Reduction Surgery via Slip of a Girl". Reductions are a bit of a hot-button issue for us busty women, with so many different viewpoints and so many possibilities for feelings to get hurt. For this reason, I’ve avoided writing about it until now, even though I spend a lot of time thinking about it. Many women are happy after having reductions, but there are also cases where a proper bra fitting could have produced this same happiness without major surgery.  I also think that a lot of women get reductions ostensibly to deal with back pain, when really what they are dealing with is disgust with their body. I don’t mean to de-legitimize this disgust, but I do want to examine it. The disgust manifests itself in various ways, and is caused by various cultural forces. Although I now believe that this can sometimes be a legitimate reason to get reduction surgery, I wish it was less common as a cause, because I think a lot of the disgust (particularly the part caused by cultural forces) is fixable.

I used to desperately long for a reduction when I was 18-20. My mom was supportive but suggested that I think it over for a couple of years. I am so glad I waited, because I ultimately came to love my boobs, and plan to keep them for life. But much more importantly, I eventually realized that the reasons I had wanted a reduction were all wrong.

It began in my first year of university. After years of being happy with my body, my boob-self-esteem suddenly hit rock bottom. During one conversation with people (mostly females) living in my hall, they crowded around me saying “Oh my God, your boobs are so huge! What size do you wear? Can we look at your bra? Can I touch them? God, they’re just so BIG!” No one in the room said anything like “Your boobs are huge! That’s cool!”  or “Your boobs look good!” I get so mad when I think back on this. It is unacceptably rude to dissect and discuss a single part of someone’s body without at least offering the comfort of a simple compliment. As it was, I ended up feeling like a zoo animal.

In another incident, the best friend of my bitchy roommate purposely walked in on me when I was braless and then ran up and down the hall screaming “You guys, I saw her tits!”

In another conversation, this time with the males living in my hall, each and every one of them declared that big boobs were overrated and lame and they only liked big butts. I didn’t even like these morons but the mere fact that they all happened to have the same preference convinced me that it was universal.

I started to do internet searches of things like “Are big boobs attractive?”, but all that would come up were articles or posts trying to reassure girls with small boobs that their bodies were perfectly attractive, so it did the opposite for me. At that point I had still never heard anyone say “You have a nice body” or even “You have nice boobs”. All I had ever heard was “huge”, “giant”, “massive”.

These factors combined to cause what felt like a deluge of hatred for big boobs from everyone I talked to. I embarked on an overly intense diet to try to make my boobs smaller, adopted a curled-over posture that hid my boobs, and I suddenly couldn’t handle the sight of myself in my old bras.

At this stage, I wanted a reduction because I felt like a monster; my insecurity was verging on body dysmorphia. I thought I would never have a boyfriend because guys seemed to hate big boobs so MUCH. If someone I was pursuing romantically was uninterested, I would immediately assume it was because of my boobs. I wrote in my journal that I did not want to “inflict” the sight of my body on anyone I knew. I never even got catcalls or pervy comments, other than the few distressing incidents I’ve just detailed (mine was the opposite, I suppose, of the stereotypical experience).

These factors were the only reasons I was so disgusted with my body that I wanted a reduction, and once I grew out of my body hatred, I realized my insecurities weren’t founded. There are loads of people, both male and female, who love big boobs or at the very least know how to be polite about the topic—those people just weren’t talking as loudly as the people who treated me like a zoo animal. The most important realization was that I myself am one of those people who like big boobs—I like all boobs, actually. I still feel sad about the fact that no one told me my body was nice when I was young enough that it would have really made a difference to me. But I guess people were trying not to make me feel uncomfortable. Unfortunately, the result was the opposite.

Because of my experiences and the fact that I ultimately came to love my body, it really saddens me to read about girls getting reductions when they are as young as 16 or 17 (even younger in some cases). So many of those girls never get the right guidance or the right length of time to properly make a serious choice which is for life. The worst is when women get reductions without ever learning about proper bra sizing—someone who should be in a 30GG will obviously be miserable in a 38DD but lots of women never learn that, and doctors don’t know that.

These considerations were only part of the reason why, after my phase of body hatred passed, I was extremely negative about reductions and believed that practically no one needed one. I’m glad I didn’t write a blog post about the topic back then because my viewpoint has evolved a lot since. I realize that although I was lucky enough to outgrow my disgust with my body, that sadly won’t happen to everyone. The cultural forces that helped remove my disgust with my boobs were just an unpredictable combination of factors, same as the forces that produced the disgust. When my love for my body was fragile and newly-formed, it was hard for me to deal with the idea of reductions because I felt that someone getting one for reasons other than crippling back pain was passing a judgment on MY body. If they wanted smaller boobs because they found their bigger boobs unpleasant, then I felt they must think that my boobs and my body were ugly and disgusting too.

But I realize now that it is unreasonable to reject the suffering of a woman who feels trapped in an alien body just because doing so might be beneficial to MY self-esteem. The bottom line is that it’s not about me. It’s not even about aesthetic standards of beauty, because there is no single aesthetic for what is attractive or acceptable. Feminism is about CHOICE.

A woman who wants smaller boobs can choose to have a reduction, just as a woman who wants bigger boobs can choose to get implants, finances allowing. In the same vein, someone who is attracted to busty women can choose to date busty women, and someone who is attracted to smaller-chested women can choose to date smaller-chested women. Besides, traits like breast size are very rarely foremost in people’s considerations of whom they love or value. None of the choices I have described are directly equivalent to a judgment on “the other” body type. Everyone feels differently and has their own preferences. If one person prefers something different from my body type, it doesn’t mean that everybody feels the same. It’s not a war.

46 comments:

  1. So glad you took the time to really delve into this topic. I can't believe the pileup of negative experiences you managed to survive to reach such a healthy attitude. I admit that sometimes I still struggle not to take it personally when another woman chooses to have a reduction. I have to remember that it's only about her; if I was perfectly happy w/ myself before I heard about the reduction, then there's no reason for me not to continue to be perfectly happy w/ myself after the news--and to hope she's happy as well.

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    1. marialanamichaels@yahoo.com4 April 2014 at 15:46

      I have had 2 breast reductions I was in the triples ,1st operation was botched in the military it was free as a spouse and I was told by a Doctor Crabtree that it was the cause of my emergency room migraines ....nope....turned out few years later I needed brain surgery .lucky me ....my breasts were literally unthreading and opening little gaps in my breasts . sutures,gauze pads,needle, balled up chunks of sewing thread,..all found in my breasts by 2nd surgeon. I also was told by 2nd surgery doctor that I had UN necessary amount of liposuction done by other doctor and really,really long,thick,ugly scars &that he did the very best he could ...which now you know they are breasts with scars instead of OMG. What are those? and now many years later I'm finally able to afford a bra from Victoria secrets ..I been fitted 2times both different....I'm miserable. I sat and cried today ...My wonderful husband trying to help me and I can't find anything that doesn't hurt my back,shoulders,neck,and then eventually migraine. First surgery I was triple d was deduced to a B cup,they grew..... 2nd time I was double Ds reduced to a C firm.they grew ...Now I am I think 36-38 DD! Seriously ...this is real no kidding I'm 4'9 127pounds and all boobs and scars . I have had to have 20 major surgeries all but 2 when I have married! I have just recently lost all my teeth too ..I'm a pretty woman I just feel a lot different than I look. When I hear people complain about a little imperfection ...hello you want my body? I have had from top to bottom brain surgery,sinus surgery,teeth extracted,toxilectomy,nose broken 2breast reductions,4abdominal exploratory, 2Hernas,appendectomy,3 births, (stretch marks from hell),ovary removed, total hysterectomy,abdominal mesh put in due to surgeries. So ya....anyone want to trade bodies? I'm trying to stay positive if anyone has any suggestions please contact me ...Thanks! Be happy with your bodies it's how you feel on the inside that matters! Thank God for my wonderful husband!

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  2. Thanks for sharing your story. There are so many large breast women that have thought about getting breast reductions for so many reasons.

    If it makes you feel any better I think that you fabulous breast.

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  3. This is such an important topic, I'm so happy you wrote about this.

    And I think your experience as a young girl is just so sad. Why do we do this to others? Why can't we just accept that people don't look the same and that you can find very different looking people attractive?

    I think the way your roommates treated you was a lot about jealousy, too. That's just absolutely unnecessary, as all boobs are wonderful!

    This is totally unrelevant, but I've always looked at your reviews and thought you have amazing boobs. :-)

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  4. Thank you for the post I am so sorry you were bullied about your boobs, horrid. I do tend to agree that it was/is jealousy but it also stresses the importance of proper fitting, proper shaped and pretty bras and clothes - they really do make the most of things without trying to disguise our assets. BTW I agree, you have a great shape.

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  5. Thanks for the mention and for sharing your story. It is a very sensitive issue indeed. Yes to that: " I also think that a lot of women get reductions ostensibly to deal with back pain, when really what are they dealing with is disgust with their body."
    I can't believe how rude and nasty these people were to you. Well, sadly, I can believe it all too well, as it is a common experience when growing up with a large chest. When I was a teen, I thought that people (mostly men and boys) were wrong for being rude to me, but that they were right in thinking that my body was "bad". Now I look at the pictures and think I looked great. I just had no idea.

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  6. Astrid is right, it is a far too common experience. Even when people aren't necessarily trying to be demeaning (just tactless), teenagers are so self-aware that it's easy to fall into negativity. And not just with large breasts, but with any physical trait that is outside the "norm".

    I didn't necessarily receive negative attention because of my breasts, but I just hated not being able to function as a normal teen. I wanted to be able to go prom dress shopping at the mall, or wear a tiny bikini during the summer, or work out in just my sports bra (which at the time was two dowdy-looking DD bras worn on top of each other in a vain attempt for support... not exactly the most attractive look).

    You know, thank God for the internet! How would us girls in the U.S. have figured anything out otherwise?

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  7. Thanks for your thoughtful post. I'm sorry you were bullied- I mostly got the aghastness of my tiny Chinese mom (who I've since set straight with a proper fitting). There's a weird taboo about complimenting a women's breasts that you wouldn't get as much if you commented on her calves- it all gets very awkward and weird with most people.

    I have considered getting a reduction several decades down the road if my back gets unhappy with my front (I'm thirty), as I do think it's a legit medical concern for some. However, at a young age it's weird because we still, er, grow into our twenties.

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  8. I want to kick the people that said those things to you (I know, not very mature, right? ;) ). Really, teens need to go through some sort of sensitivity training or something (not saying I was perfect as a teen either!).

    I'm someone who also always thought about getting a reduction too. I knew I wanted to nurse (and have kids) so it was pretty clear in my mind that I wouldn't do anything until after having kids. For me, my reasons were pretty much entirely back pain/difficulties finding bras. Once I learned about proper fitting it literally changed my life.

    That being said, I have friends/family who have had both augmentations/reductions. Knowing those individuals it's always been pretty clear to me that it was a very, very personal choice that affects no one else. While I think proper bra fitting might have helped those individuals, I can't imagine them not deciding to go through the surgery because of it either.

    I still throw around the idea of skin removal surgery (not a reduction, though). At this point my breasts wrinkle quite a bit and itch (especially when it's hot outside!) because of the extra skin (ditto on my stomach too). I'm not sure if I'll ever even get to the point of researching it but it's something I've thought about in the vague sense of "after I'm done having kids".

    It's a hard topic to discuss, as are most all topics dealing with body image, but it's an important one. I'm thankful that those closest to me have been open about their experiences and that's given me a much better insight into why they did it and what it involved. Everyone I know is very happy with their results but that certainly doesn't mean it's for everyone!

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  9. Great points about it being an individual choice. I had similar experiences - hated my chest, wanted a reduction, then got properly sized and reversed my stance to thinking that "if only women would wear the right bra size, then no one would have to get a reduction!" Which, of course, is simply not true for the reasons you mentioned. Some women have medical concerns that may necessitate a reduction, some may simply feel uncomfortable and trapped in their own body.
    I do still feel that properly sizing women will help with a lot of issues, but even some women who get properly sized and have access to well-fitting bras won't change their minds about getting breast reduction/augmentation. And that's okay.

    In my experience, I had people/friends even tell me I should get a reduction. That's not okay! I'm much more confident about my body and self now then I was then, but telling a young girl (or anyone) to just get surgery is not helpful. :P

    Thanks for sharing this :)

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  10. Congrats for Your Great Post: I loved reading it, Cheers!
    Being the only Italian/European Artist who celebrate Busty Women in ART I always have been told:
    You should Reduce the Boobs's Size of your Pin-Ups, You should Painting the Ordinary Standard of Beauty: Skinny & Flat Women!
    But Why ? ... an Artist should celebrate the Diversity and painting also Busty Women because Beauty comes in All Size & Shape !
    So I'm still figthing with my Artworks to say "Viva le Donne con le Curve, W the Joy of Busty Women even in ART!"
    Salut de Italie...Ciao!

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  11. Nice post and kudos for embracing choice when it comes to boobs. Women should have the right to be braless, bra-free, or choose plastic surgery -- if that's what is right for them. So many of the "mammoirs" I receive recall instances of women and girls criticizing one another on the basis of size (small) or surgery (implants). Thank you for modelling compassion and acceptance of diversity, especially for those in their formative years when breasts are developing. Besides, no matter your size or shape, we all struggle with finding the perfect bra fit!!

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  12. I feel your pain and am a little bit envious too... because I have the same problem in a country that does not import almost any of the labels you are reviewing. And those that come to Croatia dont go below 75 (34 band) or european f cup (which is E in uk i think)! At best. So I'm basically not even sure I'm wearing the right size as I type.
    I would appreciate your help. I started ordering bras online but had 3/3 strikes so far.
    The only bra I can wear lately is Chantelle's Rive Gauche in 70h (32 h or 32 ff) http://www.herroom.com/chantelle-3281-rive-gauche-3-part-cup-bra.shtml

    This bra is very stretchy so it fits well, but any moulded or padded bra in the same chantelle size is too small.

    I orderd the curvy kate princess in 32 g (which is, according to charts, supposed to be a size bigger than chantelle's 32 ff) and the cup was too small!! Lepels 32 ff was also too small.
    Please help, cause the shipping fees are killing me and I don't know what to order anymore :( I measure 73 cm in the ribcage and 96 cm over my chantelle bra.

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    1. I haven't tried the bras you mention, but just throwing it out there that with a 73 cm underbust (which is between 28-29 inches), you may be better off in a 28 or 30 band bra. 96 cm is around 38 inches, so that's a 10 inch difference, which would be around a GG cup, UK sizing.
      Have you tried any Freya bras? They tend to be not a bad choice to start with. Maybe a 28GG-H in a Freya?
      Brastop.com tends to have good prices for bras.

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    2. I agree with Christine's excellent advice. Check out my "Starting Points" post if you haven't already, I link to a few bra calculators there. The Curves and Corsets one, which I think is better, did give a suggestion of 28H/30GG for you. I don't really know anything about Chantelle, so starting from the ground up might be the best for you.
      I would also recommend Brastop because their international shipping isn't TOO expensive, and you can do a massive order of several different styles and sizes. Freya bras can be hard to find in 28 bands, but there will be more options in a 30GG. Make sure you order several different sizes in the same bra, so that you can find out exactly what your size is in at least that one bra, and then figure out what size you'd need in other bras with reference to that.

      Good luck!

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    3. I also want to note that the Curvy Kate Princess is a very tight bra, so I'm not that surprised that you found it was too small. You might want to try a 30H or 28HH in that one. Once you know your size in one Curvy Kate bra, you can more or less get the same size in everything, although some people need to get a cup size bigger in Princess and Angel because they have tighter stitching and decorations.

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    4. Hey Help Me your measurements are very similar to mine. I'm 3cm smaller around the ribcage and am happy in a good quality 30 band bra from Panache, Freya or Fantasie (cheaper brands often stretch out and aren't supportive in a 30 on me) but I also wear 28 bands too.

      I would order both a 30GG and 30H in a style that is stretchy and un-moulded as I think these can be a bit more versatile.

      I recommend Bravissimo because I find some online stores have a 30 day refund policy and it takes 2-3 weeks for their parcels to arrive out in Australia (often I miss the 30 day returns window even if I send stuff back on the same day I receive it!) and Bravissimo are usually more understanding regarding returns and keep the same basic items from season to season.

      I would recommend the Andorra Bra by Panache or the Alana Bra by Bravissimo as good starting bra.

      Good luck! Stick to one style and persevere through the delivery and returns shipping until you get it perfect then fill out your underwear draw when/if your fav bra goes on sale and then experiment with different styles in the same range then try other brands!

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  13. Just wanted to chime in and say that your experiences with bullying was horrid!

    This makes me greatful that I grew up with reserved intellectual type parents because I (and they) would never ever comment on another person's physical attributes - it's rude!

    But when I was 18 a stranger approached me in the supermarket and told me that I should have babies and then get a breast reduction (she had gone through a breast reduction and claimed it was the best thing ever) and I'm happy to say my gut reaction was to nod politely while thinking about how rude she was to comment on my body.

    If anything this experience made me more determined to stick steadfast to the body that I was born with. If it bothers other people well that's their problem! If I can live with it they can damn well live with it for the 5 or 10 minutes they spend with me!

    We don't comment on how fat a person is, or how big someone's nose is... it's not socially acceptable. But somehow it is acceptable to comment on someone's boob size or height?

    If it's not a compliment, don't say it. Observations are not compliments and can be hurtful.

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  14. Thank you for writing this! It's comforting (though sad) to see I'm not the only one who had experiences like this. I have no idea why people think big boobs are public property, fair to discuss and comment on as though not attached to a real person.

    When I asked a few close people, they say they assume that big boobs get so many compliments, it annoys their owners to hear any more. I guess the problem is most people assume it's not ok to compliment large breasts at the same time not realizing that there really isn't a built up ton of compliments to guard against the insults and critiques.

    As you say, if you have something nice to say, say it; if you have something negative to say don't -- this should apply to everything.

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  15. I do think a lot of people would reconsider having a breast reduction if they just got fitted properly. If they're wearing a back size that's too big they'll get no support so their back will take the weight. Unfortunately many women just don't know how bra sizing works. I'm on the opposite side of the fence however, so I can't relate. As much as I hate my small boobs at least I don't have to suffer back pain.

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  16. I keep reading here about women with back pain. :( I can't help but wonder, along with a proper-fitting bra, if a lot of very large-breasted women might find some relief by strengthening the muscles of their lower back through weight-training. Aside from strengthening the body in general, there would be more to support the front via the back and perhaps that would help lessen some of that pain.

    Personally, I just think the idea of cutting into the breasts/body (for augmentation OR reduction) often is a sign that too many outside influences are allowed to dictate to a woman what she "should" look like. The media is skewed to begin with and when your self-esteem rides on what other people think of your appearance, then the voice of what YOU really want for yourself often ends up being just a sad whisper--when it should be a nice, big shout!

    That being said, I'm sorry people were so insensitive and nasty to you, growing up. I think a lot of people go through that to some degree--"four eyes", "skinny girl", whatever--and it is SO unfortunate, because when we're young our perspective isn't as wide and as educated as (hopefully) it someday will be. It's harder to let things not affect you. And sometimes, it can take a long time to grow past all that hurt. But I'm very glad you've come to love yourself better now. :)

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  17. I just have to say that this article in particular made me feel so great about myself in ways i believe you could understand. Im 15 and i wear a size 28HH, i was recently fitted back in november and i have and still am coming to terms with my body, especially my breasts and i did and sometimes still do consider breast reduction surgery but this made me realize that though some days are harder than others that i truly hope to love my breasts or at least not hate them.

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  18. It is great that you are promoting the right to choose what works for every woman. Breast reduction is not something we should laugh at. A person might consider breast reduction because of some serious reasons such as back pain, chest problems, and awkward body posture. You are right in emphasizing that one should think more than twice if the procedure is right for them or not.

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  19. Thank you for the fantastic article. The place else could anyone get that kind of info in such a perfect means of writing? I have a presentation next week, and I am at the search for such information.

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  20. Brilliant idea. I like the way you discuss breast reduction topic. i find this content educative and good to share to others.

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  21. Great Post! I just found your blog and am new to the world of properly fitted bras. I actually just posted on another post : How To Figure Out The Shape Of Your Boobs about my reduced breast projection as a result of the reduction I got when I was 19-for reasons very similar to why you wanted one. I also had severe neck pain as I, in my bra sizing ignorance, had sized my band up too high in order to get cups big enough to sort of contain my breasts and I ended up with a band that provided absolutely no support so 100% of the weight was bore by the shoulder straps. (At the time of my reduction I was wearing a US 38DD but I probably should have been in a 32 band which would be a cup equivalent to a H cup-if I am doing my math right- but the cups were probably 2 cup sizes too small.) Honestly though, it was the pain that was the deciding factor, because while I did deal with teasing and cruel comments from the moment I was the first girl in my class to wear a bra in the 3rd grade I was lucky enough that by the time I made it into high school I had enough co-ed friends who were wonderfully sensitive and so for every cruel remark I heard from some random person there were multiple compliments to help erase the sting. They were just so heavy, my surgeon took well over 3 lbs of breast tissue total and 6 months post-op I was filling out the cups of a 36 D bra (still not the right fit but that's what I wore and I'm trying to give you some kind of visual that I was not in any way "flat" afterwards) and with all of that weight resting on my shoulders I had tension headaches everyday, loss of range of motion in my neck and shoulders, pinched nerves that caused tingling, numbness, and pain down my arms and up and down my spine, and permanent dents from my bra straps.
    I will say, for the first time in the 9 years since my reduction I am beginning to have doubts and, dare I say it, regrets. Like you say "The worst is when women get reductions without ever learning about proper bra sizing—someone who should be in a 30GG will obviously be miserable in a 38DD but lots of women never learn that, and doctors don’t know that." I obviously had no idea and neither did my mom or my doctor or anyone else I talked to. But if someone had said to me "Before you undergo this HUGE, life changing, body changing surgery that has risks and complications and that you can't ever undo, I would like you to try on a few of these bras and let's just see how they look and how they fit and don't even bother looking at the tag because they're made over in England so the sizing is all weird and it doesn't matter, we're just going to get you into something that fits." and they got me into a bra that fit right and looked cute and supported me well and took 80% of the weight off of my shoulders and put it into the band where it belonged... well, I probably wouldn't have gone through with it because they were really beautiful.

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  22. It's a good thing that you thought about it for a couple of years. You may regret it if you had breast reduction at that early age. All your experiences during your first year in the university made your breast your asset, I suppose. May I ask, if you feel any pain or if you feel the weight of your breast? If you do, that might be a good reason to go for the treatment.

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  23. No, it is DEFINITELY not a war! That was very well-put. People of any and all sizes will want some sort of cosmetic surgery if they feel they will look better after it’s done. It doesn’t always have to be vanity. Many times, cosmetic surgery has helped the psyche and self-esteem of a patient because the surgery has helped them feel more comfortable and more secure with their body. Media can be harsh regarding what the “perfect” body image should be, but it’s my belief that, if you are happy with your body, then that’s the “perfect” body image for you. If cosmetic surgery is the way to that happiness, then by all means, have at it.

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  24. I agree with Geoffrey. Vanity may be one of the reasons most people deduce from getting breast augmentation, but it’s not all that really. My sister suffered from breast cancer a few years back and she lost her left boob. When she decided to get her boobs done, I supported her all the way because I know this will help her return to her original self: confident and satisfied with her body.

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  25. Large breasts can be embarrassing for any lady in public place. Breasts can be reduced to normal size and shape with the help of breast reduction india

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  26. Breast reduction topic is close to heart. Good post

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  27. Personally, I also underwent a breast reduction procedure by Dr. Jerome Edelstein, because I was unsatisfied that I have big breasts. So a procedure like this was necessary and I'm glad that I went for it... my life changed and I finally got rid of back pain.

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  28. Breast reduction surgery (reduction mammoplasty) camera removes some of the tissue and skin from the breasts to reshape and reduce the size of the breasts. It can also make the area of dark skin surrounding the nipple (areola) smaller.

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  29. It's crazy how much you've written sounds as if it's come from me. I've thought all of these things, and I suppose you're right, it does verge on body dysmorphia at times. The amount of times I've blamed my boobs for reasons why a guy doesn't like me or why I feel unhappy in clothes or struggle to get intimate with someone and really... that's stupid. They're only boobs. I'm 22 now and I'm definitely getting more confidence with my body, but there's a long way to go yet. I love that you've got this blog and you're writing posts like these. I've given up trying to express my hatred for my boobs to my friends, as they don't understand and I probably sound ridiculous to them, so it's nice to see that I'm not alone! And it's also nice to see that you're so happy with yours now. I hope I get there! :)

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  30. This is such a wonderful post. Really well done. I'd like to read more about the forces that helped you transition to accepting and loving your boobs. I'm somewhere in the midst of that process myself, and at times I think they are beautiful, but at others I genuinely wonder if I'm grotesque. You write in such a clear, level-headed and considerate way, I honestly think your story of self-love would be helpful to many women.

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  32. A very good friend of mine from high school got a breast reduction about six months after graduation. She had dealt with constant back pain due to the size of her breasts before the procedure. I only saw her once or twice afterwards before she left on a trip around the world for a few years. She seemed happier though. I think too many people feel like plastic surgery is inherently bad, but it actually does help people quite often. I know that my friend was struggling before she got this, and I'm sure many other people have had similar experiences.

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